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Once upon a time, they lived happily ever after … not

“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer– may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.”  Proverbs 5:18-19 (NIV)

“I hate failure and that divorce was a Number One failure in my eyes. It was the worst period of my life. Neither Desi nor I have been the same since, physically or mentally.” ~Lucille Ball


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I’ve found that men usually hesitate to talk, willingly or otherwise, preferring to steer away from intense communication.  It was the case in most of my relationships and it was definitely the case in my marriage.  Things would lie dormant, then fester and fester, like mold silently but consistently growing on old cheese.

When we finally discussed the issue, it would have grown from a dust ball into a mountain that could not be climbed far less surmounted. And then over time, it became too late; too late to recover from the everything that had led to nothing.

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If she had only known then …

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Colossians 3:18-19 (NIV)


Remember this post I wrote about marriage and sharing a sound tip or two with my son?  It was called “Once upon a time, they lived happily ever after … maybe” because there are no guarantees to ‘happily ever after’ especially if the effort is only being made by one person instead of two.

But guess what? I actually came across a female divorcee’s perspective (A woman’s response to “Beautiful advice from a divorced man after 16 years of marriage”) which I felt I should share that with you as well.  The author, Wendy, has more than 20 points however but of course, that comes with simply being a woman and paying extra close attention to emotional detail 🙂

Definitely worth reading; enjoy!

PS: For a non-sensical abstract (not sure if it’s truly authentic) take on marriage click here – and then smile, while being totally thankful you didn’t live in the 1960’s.  Leave me a comment if you agree with this author.

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“Spotting” a Marriage Before It’s Too Late


When blogging, you can come across a link to a link to another link.  That’s how I was led to a blog called The Time Warp Wife.  Interestingly enough, the article on the homepage was exactly what I had been talking about recently to a friend.  Our conversation concerned a Christian man who had had an affair with a Christian woman and was divorcing his wife (also a Christian) of 30 odd years.  As I listened to the story unfold, I reserved my opinion.  Continue reading