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Either you’ll have it, or have to look after someone who has it

Dedicated to all Moms who may have forgotten they are moms | Photo by Gale E
“My mother had early-onset Alzheimer’s, and it took her four years to die. She was only 44; I was 14.” ~ Karolyn Grimes

“I hate Alzheimer’s. It is one of the most awful things because, here is a loved one, this is the woman or man that you have loved for 20, 30, 40 years, and suddenly, that person is gone. They’re gone. They are gone.” ~ Pat Robertson

“I’m in awe of people out there who deal with Alzheimer’s, because they have to deal with death 10 times over, year after year.” ~ Marcia Wallace
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Alzheimer’s, Dementia … mention these diseases to me and I get really angry.  I am angry because they tear the patriarchs of our family away from us. I am angry because these diseases eat away not only at bodies but at minds once brilliant and shining, leaving nothing but ashes blowing in the smoke of obliterated memories. I am angry as I watch atrophied muscles in legs and arms refusing to cooperate, under dimmed eyes which always seem to ask: “who are you, where am I, how did I get here, why don’t I know any of these people?” These questions really cut to the heart when it’s your mom (or dad) wondering what’s going on.

But in case you didn’t truly know …

  • The number of Americans living with Alzheimer’s disease is growing — and growing fast. An estimated 5.5 million Americans of all ages have Alzheimer’s disease.
  • Of the estimated 5.5 million Americans living with Alzheimer’s dementia in 2017, an estimated 5.3 million are age 65 and older and approximately 200,000 individuals are under age 65 and have younger-onset Alzheimer’s.
  • One in 10 people age 65 and older (10 percent) has Alzheimer’s dementia.
  • Almost two-thirds of Americans with Alzheimer’s are women.
  • African-Americans are about twice as likely to have Alzheimer’s or other dementias as older whites.
  • Hispanics are about one and one-half times as likely to have Alzheimer’s or other dementias as older whites.

Because of the increasing number of people age 65 and older in the United States, particularly the oldest-old, the number of new cases of Alzheimer’s and other dementias is projected to soar. Today, someone in the United States develops Alzheimer’s dementia every 66 seconds. By mid-century, someone in the United States will develop the disease every 33 seconds.

Source: http://www.alz.org/facts/

If you haven’t seen the movie “Still Alice” starring Julianne Moore I invite you to download it and find a quiet moment where you can watch uninterrupted.  After you have recovered from all of the emotions, take a breath and then watch this interesting and informative TED Talk by Lisa Genova, author of the book Still Alice (on which the movie is based) as she speaks to the audience on how we can possibly avoid Alzheimer’s. I for one will seriously need to catch up on my sleep and attempt to learn new things more often.

But what about you? Is anyone in your family affected by this terrible disease? Are you a caregiver? How has it affected you? What have you learnt from the experience?  In observation of Mother’s Day I am inviting you to please share your story; someone out there needs to know they are not alone in this struggle.

Click here for a little of my personal journey: Alzheimer’s is Real – Part IAlzheimer’s is Real – Part II; to read more thoughts simply search this blog using the word: Alzheimer’s.

 


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Hug Your Mom – Especially If She’s Still With You

My mom and I 🙂

Happy Mother’s Day!

When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to her, “Woman, here is your son,” and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home.
John 19:26-27 (NIV)

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There’s nothing like being a mother …  and I would know; I’ve been one for the past 19 and a half years.  But where’s my reward for being a dedicated worker?  What about my recognition for overtime or for going above and beyond?  Oh, and let’s not forget all the extra things I did that weren’t on my job description!  If this is a career path when will I ever become CEO instead of a general worker/cleaner/taxi driver/counselor/conflict negotiator and first-aider? Yet, one of my biggest achievements in life is being a mom (wipes tears from eyes before son sees them).

Actually, none of the above matters.  There’s no way a mother can explain in words the feeling she gets from hugging her child as she reads stories in bed, or wrapping them in her arms after a bad day at school, or swatting them on their behind for giving her lip! She laughs when they laugh and she cries when they cry.  Her heart swells with pride in accomplishment and constricts with pain in defeat.

But I digress.  This post today is really to say: Happy Mother’s Day to all mummies and adopted mummies e.g. aunties, god-mummies, older sisters, teachers … you struggled and sacrificed and disciplined because you were committed to helping us realise our potential and we love you the more because of this.

If you have a mom, then celebrate her! Do not do like a friend of mine who always complains that his mother is exceeding the limits of his medication! Noooo!!!

And to all of you who like myself have no mummy to spend the day with them in person, be strong!  She’s looking down on you with love and pride because she knows you are simply awesome!

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“Motherhood is a great honor and privilege, yet it is also synonymous with servanthood. Every day women are called upon to selflessly meet the needs of their families. Whether they are awake at night nursing a baby, spending their time and money on less-than-grateful teenagers, or preparing meals, moms continuously put others before themselves.”
~ Charles Stanley

“It is not until you become a mother that your judgment slowly turns to compassion and understanding.”
~ Erma Bombeck

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Mom and son (I would be the shorter one)

Mom gifts, parenting joys

Tea in my favourite mug from my son Nathan


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“Four reasons why I love you mommy …”

Hi mommy

This coming Sunday we will wish our moms and those that are moms to us even though not related by blood a Happy Mother’s Day.  Some of us will take our moms out to lunch or dinner, pamper her with gift vouchers for spa massages or facials, or simply give her a card with words which express the love we carry deep in our hearts.

In this short video clip, little Claire gave her mom a wonderful birthday message, including four reasons why her sweet daughter thought she was the best mom ever.   If you are still looking for a beautiful yet meaningful gift that will only cost you the time it takes to prepare, why not consider doing something similar for your mom on Mother’s Day?  It’s not too late to make it happen …

“Only mothers can think of the future – because they give birth to it in their children.” Maxim Gorky

 


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Celebrating Moms and Mom-preneurship

#moms #happy mother's day

Moms are awesome

 

A Mother’s Prayer For You
~Anon

I said a Mother’s Day prayer for you
to thank the Lord above
for blessing me with a lifetime
of your tender-hearted love.
I thanked God for the caring
you’ve shown me through the years,
for the closeness we’ve enjoyed
in time of laughter and of tears.
And so, I thank you from the heart
for all you’ve done for me
and I bless the Lord for giving me
the best mother there could be!

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It’s the month of May, the month when we celebrate our moms and all they have done for us. I lost my mom in 2009 and still miss her very much. It doesn’t matter now how annoying she could be sometimes by insisting I check in or do something I didn’t feel like doing; it doesn’t matter now how she would just pass by unannounced whenever she was in my neighbourhood; it only matters that she loved me and I loved her.  Yes, she is truly in my heart and always will be.

Whether your mom is here on earth with you or has gone to be a flower in God’s garden we are sure you loved her and want the world to know just how much. So how can we help? By sharing this love of course!

And it’s quite simple. Just go on over to our Living Day by Day Journals Facebook page and in the comments box, share some thoughts on your mom. The person with the most likes for their comment will receive … well, it’s all on the page.  Pretty easy right?  Right! So let’s get to sharing and making this month totally awesome for our moms 🙂

 

To My Mother
~Anon

For all the times you gently picked me up,
When I fell down,
For all the times you tied my shoes
And tucked me into bed,
Or needed something
But put me first instead.
For everything we shared,
The dreams, the laughter,
And the tears,
I love you with a “Special Love”
That deepens every year.

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NB: Mother’s Day poetry shown here can be found at http://www.homemade-gifts-made-easy.com/short-mothers-day-poems.html
 
Photo by Nathan Weithers | nathanweithers@hotmail.com