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It is what it is; when your child tells you he is gay

“Do I want to be a hero to my son? No. I would like to be a very real human being. That’s hard enough.”
~ Robert Downey, Jr.

 

This is simply a mother’s perspectiove on Father’s Day. I have one son. No other children. I worry about him sometimes only because like most other parents I want the absolute best for him. My life experiences offered lots of lessons but when I try to share them he usually likes to learn his own lessons in his own way. That can be tough for a parent; to let go and let be.

Yet I have to admit I grew up in a totally different time. Today, things that are considered normal or acceptable would have been frowned upon 50 years ago when we were a more conservative society. Homosexuality for example was kept a secret for as long as possible to avoid the judgmental stares, comments and victimization. If you were a brave man you came out; if you were a woman you kept your secret even longer to avoid the fingers pointing at ‘that lesbian girl’.

In a world of same sex marriages and public displays of affection, these questions came up during a recent discussion with some friends: what would you do if your child told you they were gay?  Would you be supportive? Would you put them out on the street if they still lived with you? Would you be accepting of their partner? Would you need an extra supply of blood pressure meds?

I honestly didn’t have an answer but one of the most profound comments that night was this one: “Well you know what? It is what it is.”

As we get ready to salute all dads on Father’s Day in a few days, I salute this parent’s response to the news that both of his sons were gay, even while asking you: what would you do if this happened to you?

And then, the dad was able to share his feelings about his sons.
I appreciated the mature way he supported them.


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And you thought you had one up on this Granny … definitely not!

You get a news feed from www.bbcnews.com on your instagram account with the following headline:

Hairdryer gran Jean Brooks is ‘national hero’ say fans

You wonder how many hairstyles Jean could be doing every day to make her a national hero. Sounds as though she must be something special so you click on the link to see this introduction:

“A hairdryer-wielding grandmother who became an internet sensation says schoolchildren in her area now consider her a “national hero. Jean Brooks uses the hairdryer as a pretend speed gun outside her home in Hucknall, Nottinghamshire.”

Of course you want to read more! I also wanted to see how well this worked because it was just so far fetched.  The report went on to say this:

“A video of her has been viewed more than 33 million times on the BBC Radio Nottingham Facebook page.  Since her new-found fame, she said she is asked for selfies and fans visit her home.”

Click on the link above to see the hilarious video but guess what? Success was achieved.  It was a serious situation that called for desperate measures and I could totally relate to this as something possibly affecting many of us in other parts of the world.  Here on my little rock for sure, we have stunt bike riders performing wheelies in the middle of thick bumper-to-bumper traffic and in neighborhoods every single day but especially on weekends aka super dangerous but the riders just do not care.

Jean’s streets are much safer for residents now, including young vulnerable children; she is a great granny and an excellent role model. She did what she had to do to restore order, stability and safety from out of the chaos because as they say, ‘necessity is the mother of invention’ and this invention was most definitely necessary.

But what’s your take? Would you have gone to these lengths? And on a scale of 1 – 10 what’s your rating for ingenuity? Let’s start a conversation; share your thoughts in the comments box 🙂


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10 Rules to Success by Oprah Winfrey

2 kettlebells 20 lbs each

“I feel that luck is preparation meeting opportunity.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

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Do you believe Oprah Winfrey is successful? What’s your yardstick? What do you think is hers? I know that mine is hard work followed by hard work. That’s what it took for me to be able to swing two 20 lb kettlebells at the same time. When I finally got it right it was: “Success folks! Go me!”

I am not as famous as Oprah but here are 10 of her ‘Rules to Success’ – thanks to Evan Carmichael – but do they match yours? Would you add any others? Leave a comment and get this successful conversation started 🙂

“Turn your wounds into wisdom.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” ~ Golda Meir


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One Way or Another

Loved this video by One Direction and their drive to go all out to make a donation to Comic Relief, a British charity which helps people living tough lives in Africa and the UK.

This may have been a few years ago but if more of us could develop this way of thinking the world just might be a better place. Thanks for showing us that where there is a will, there is definitely a way; well done guys!