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Looking at You (aka Reflecting)

REFLECTING

I look at you
sometimes more than
once in a single day
eyes fully open
not wanting to miss
one single moment,
straining to really see
how much of me
is growing
with you, in you;
not wanting you to be me
(not at all!)
but acknowledging all
that I could ever wish for
is already there … within you …
my most amazing work of art.

© Gale Weithers, 2017

“A work of art is a world in itself reflecting senses and emotions of the artist’s world.”
~ Hans Hofmann

“Only mothers can think of the future – because they give birth to it in their children.”
~ Maxim Gorky

 

 

 


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Hug Your Mom – Especially If She’s Still With You

My mom and I 🙂

Happy Mother’s Day!

When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to her, “Woman, here is your son,” and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home.
John 19:26-27 (NIV)

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There’s nothing like being a mother …  and I would know; I’ve been one for the past 19 and a half years.  But where’s my reward for being a dedicated worker?  What about my recognition for overtime or for going above and beyond?  Oh, and let’s not forget all the extra things I did that weren’t on my job description!  If this is a career path when will I ever become CEO instead of a general worker/cleaner/taxi driver/counselor/conflict negotiator and first-aider? Yet, one of my biggest achievements in life is being a mom (wipes tears from eyes before son sees them).

Actually, none of the above matters.  There’s no way a mother can explain in words the feeling she gets from hugging her child as she reads stories in bed, or wrapping them in her arms after a bad day at school, or swatting them on their behind for giving her lip! She laughs when they laugh and she cries when they cry.  Her heart swells with pride in accomplishment and constricts with pain in defeat.

But I digress.  This post today is really to say: Happy Mother’s Day to all mummies and adopted mummies e.g. aunties, god-mummies, older sisters, teachers … you struggled and sacrificed and disciplined because you were committed to helping us realise our potential and we love you the more because of this.

If you have a mom, then celebrate her! Do not do like a friend of mine who always complains that his mother is exceeding the limits of his medication! Noooo!!!

And to all of you who like myself have no mummy to spend the day with them in person, be strong!  She’s looking down on you with love and pride because she knows you are simply awesome!

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“Motherhood is a great honor and privilege, yet it is also synonymous with servanthood. Every day women are called upon to selflessly meet the needs of their families. Whether they are awake at night nursing a baby, spending their time and money on less-than-grateful teenagers, or preparing meals, moms continuously put others before themselves.”
~ Charles Stanley

“It is not until you become a mother that your judgment slowly turns to compassion and understanding.”
~ Erma Bombeck

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Mom and son (I would be the shorter one)

Mom gifts, parenting joys

Tea in my favourite mug from my son Nathan


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She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink | The Huffington Post

Quote by Matthew Fray

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Came across this thought-provoking article on The Huffington Post and found it really interesting, especially being a divorce statistic.  Isn’t it sad how hindsight involves a lot of 20/20 vision that was missing ‘before-sight’? I believe prevention is  better than cure but in some instances it takes two people to actively agree on the prevention steps, and even then there is no guarantee that the curing stage can be averted.

But let me not influence you yet. Read the article and then answer these questions:

  • Do you agree with Matthew Fray’s take here?
  • Was his wife being totally ridiculous aka a nit picker?
  • What do you think about their relationship?
  • Are you divorced? And if yes, was your divorce as a result of a seemingly petty inconsequential ridiculous situation?

Let’s get a conversation started 🙂

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She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink
by Matthew Fray

It seems so unreasonable when you put it that way: My wife left me because sometimes I leave dishes by the sink.

It makes her seem ridiculous; and makes me seem like a victim of unfair expectations.

We like to point fingers at other things to explain why something went wrong, like when Biff Tannen crashed George McFly’s car and spilled beer on his clothes, but it was all George’s fault for not telling him the car had a blind spot.

This bad thing happened because of this, that, and the other thing. Not because of anything I did!

Sometimes I leave used drinking glasses by the kitchen sink, just inches away from the dishwasher.

It isn’t a big deal to me now. It wasn’t a big deal to me when I was married. But it was a big deal to her.

Every time she’d walk into the kitchen and find a drinking glass by the sink, she moved incrementally closer to moving out and ending our marriage. I just didn’t know it yet.”  Read more

In my divorce, I stood up and said to my ex-wife, ‘Hey, I messed up. This had nothing to do with you. I didn’t understand what marriage was. I cheated. I was wrong. We couldn’t fix it; it got worse. I stepped away because I didn’t want it to get any worse. You’re the mother of my kids – I don’t want to hate you.’ ~ Kevin Hart

A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there’s less of you. ~ Margaret Atwood

Divorce is never a pleasant experience. You look upon it as a failure. But I learned to be a different person once we broke up. Sometimes you learn more from failure than you do from success. ~ Michael Crawford

 

 


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There’s Power in the Pit

 

“Joseph’s master took him and put him in prison, the place where the king’s prisoners were confined.  But while Joseph was there in the prison, the LORD was with him; he showed him kindness and granted him favor in the eyes of the prison warden.  So the warden put Joseph in charge of all those held in the prison, and he was made responsible for all that was done there.  The warden paid no attention to anything under Joseph’s care, because the LORD was with Joseph and gave him success in whatever he did.”
Genesis 39:20-23 (NIV)

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Do you have dreams? Can you see yourself in the future achieving what you want most?  And what are you doing now to prepare yourself for that special time when you arrive in your ‘kingdom of kingdoms’? I guess the real question here is: do you know how to be a reserve?

Let me explain by telling you about Jalon Samuel, an 18 year old race horse jockey who won the prestigious Sandy Lane Gold Cup here in Barbados in 2012.  Jalon’s victory was significant because in 2o11 he had won his race, was interviewed via the media and publicly congratulated on being a winner but later disqualified. How traumatic! In 2012 he was a reserve jockey up until the before race day on Saturday when suddenly another jockey withdrew. The timing was finally right and everything lined up perfectly; this was his chance to successfully (and without any doubt or drama) achieve his dream.

Jalon’s story is significant for two reasons. First of all, even though he might have been disappointed and dejected over his disqualification in 2011, he never gave up hope that one day he would indeed win this prestigious race.  Secondly, he never gave up preparing for his big day.  He just kept on riding and riding and then riding some more so that he would be ready.  He didn’t know if he would be a jockey on a champion horse in 2012 or 2013 or 2014 (after all, how could he predict the future without a crystal ball?) but it didn’t matter.  Jalon knew without a doubt that preparation while waiting was the key and he mapped out his life accordingly so that when the big day finally came he would be more than ready.

So now I ask: are you waiting for God to fulfill your biggest dreams, to give you that one defining moment in time that you have been waiting on forever?  While you wait are you like Joseph, who never stopped praying and believing that God would make a way for him, even when he was in prison and his situation looked so utterly hopeless?  Are you diligently doing what needs to be done, how it needs to be done, when it needs to be done?  Are you really and truly ready to receive your breakthrough or promotion or financial blessing?

You might be in a prison right now. It could involve finances, health, career, child/relationship or even church prison. Whatever it is you feel as though you are locked behind thick bars of impenetrable steel. But what is more important: your prison or the God sitting right next to you in your prison tightly holding your hand?

Joseph’s life in Egypt was so fraught with never-ending drama that no-one would have blamed him for giving up on God but he didn’t and in the end he was put in charge of the whole land of Egypt. The Lord was with Joseph and gave him success in whatever he did. He is also with you today, tomorrow and forever. Be ready to go from the pit to the palace … especially if you are still a reserve.

Have a great week!

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“So Pharaoh said to Joseph, “I hereby put you in charge of the whole land of Egypt.” Then Pharaoh took his signet ring from his finger and put it on Joseph’s finger. He dressed him in robes of fine linen and put a gold chain around his neck. He had him ride in a chariot as his second-in-command, and people shouted before him, “Make way!” Thus he put him in charge of the whole land of Egypt.”
Genesis 41:41-4 (NIV)

“In hard circumstances, we always have a choice. Most of the time it is easy to see what God would want us to choose. Joseph made Godly choices when he decided to be the best slave that he could be and when he didn’t kiss Potiphar’s wife (and the Bible says that she was very beautiful!). We have to remember that God has a plan. Sometimes our life gets a little harder for a while so that God’s plan could work. Hard times make us a better person, and the better person we are, the more God can use us. We should obey God and we have to trust God! Do you think God knows what he is doing? Me too!”
~ Jack Foster @  http://mrbiblehead.blogspot.com/2011/01/joseph-becomes-slave-gn-37-39.html

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wedding rings

Circles of Nostalgia

No longer shiny, no longer new
No longer a sign of me tied to you
My heart doesn’t cry
(Too many years have gone by)
But today as I sit
I’m amazed they still fit!

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Gale Weithers, 2016

“Distance not only gives nostalgia, but perspective, and maybe objectivity.” ~ Robert Morgan


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Negative People … they live among us

 

early morning double rainbow

Sometimes it doesn’t matter how hard you try: there’s a negative person out there just waiting to shoot down your opinions, blow your positivity to pieces, and/or infect you with their toxins. Their glass is either half-empty or non-existent. Their mood is gloomy and pessimistic. They never see the rainbow in the sky after the downpour. The end of the world is probably, for them, very near.

And having dealt with a lot of negative people in my life to date, this post resonated with me. If you are tired of dealing with the negative personas in your world too, then hopefully you will find some words of wisdom here as well. Let’s be positive rather than negative because together we can indeed make the world a better place – one sweet smile at a time. Here is an excerpt:

“Recognize and accept their toxicity
First and foremost, it is important to identify and accept that someone we know is a negative person. This can be difficult, especially when the person is someone we care about. Either way, we must be careful not to allow their negativity to transfer onto us. We need to accept that negativity is toxic and will only breed more negativity. It is especially important to avoid complainers. People who complain have given up hope that their actions can make any difference. We must be careful not to enable complainers by always listening to their woes.” Read more

 

Source: How to Deal with Negative People