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Looking at You (aka Reflecting)

REFLECTING

I look at you
sometimes more than
once in a single day
eyes fully open
not wanting to miss
one single moment,
straining to really see
how much of me
is growing
with you, in you;
not wanting you to be me
(not at all!)
but acknowledging all
that I could ever wish for
is already there … within you …
my most amazing work of art.

© Gale Weithers, 2017

“A work of art is a world in itself reflecting senses and emotions of the artist’s world.”
~ Hans Hofmann

“Only mothers can think of the future – because they give birth to it in their children.”
~ Maxim Gorky

 

 

 


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The Truth About Parenting – And Why It’s Important To Lead By Example

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Photo by Gale E

“If we never have headaches through rebuking our children, we shall have plenty of heartaches when they grow up.”
– Charles Spurgeon

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Parenting is challenging. Yet it can be so very rewarding!

It is human to wonder if our children really hear us when we speak to them, if they are taking in the life lessons rather than choosing to go their own rebellious ways and if they will honestly leave us in a senior citizen’s home when we become old and frail and unable to look after ourselves. We sigh when they are stubborn and cry when they cry; we laugh at their jokes and hug them back when they know we know they are being cheeky. Would I exchange being a parent for anything in the world? Definitely not!

But here is an excellent article entitled: “4 Reasons More Is Caught Than Taught” which illustrates some of what parenting truly covers. Take a read and then share your comments, especially if you are a parent.

Excerpt: 
CAN’T HEAR YOU
If your words don’t match your actions, then your children can’t hear what you’re saying because your actions are drowning out your words. I know, I’ve done it, but this should give us pause to reflect on what we do can be more important than what we say, as experience has proven that more is caught than is taught. They might not do what you say but do what you do, so our examples are of supreme importance.
MONKEY SEE, MONKEY DO
The old expression, “monkey see, monkey do” is perfectly appropriate for parents, foster parents, and grandparents. That expression means that they will repeat what you do and not what you say.   Read more

SOME MORE PARENTING TRUTHS 🙂

“To be a good father and mother requires that the parents defer many of their own needs and desires in favor of the needs of their children. As a consequence of this sacrifice, conscientious parents develop a nobility of character and learn to put into practice the selfless truths taught by the Savior Himself.” ~ James E. Faust

“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” ~ Frederick Douglass

“Never lend your car to anyone to whom you have given birth.” ~ Erma Bombeck

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Why I don’t want my kid growing up normal

As a parent there are so many things you want and/or do not want for your child. And yes, balancing these can drive you crazy!
For starters, you may not want her to be as poor as you were growing up but she still needs to appreciate the value of money, acknowledge the significance of delayed gratification, show empathy for those who do not have enough and embrace the gift of sharing with others. Even after 18 years, I still want Nathan to learn the necessary life lessons by simply listening to me and following my exact instructions … instead of living primarily to experience what happens when a different road is taken.

A lot of this post therefore covers so much of what I should say and how I should say it to my own offspring, that I’m simply going to reblog these words right here for him to see.

Now all I have to do is find a way to get him to read it …

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I don’t want you to grow up normal. I don’t want you to think that the only way to relieve a broken heart is a prescription for a bottle of pills. I want you to feel that hurt, to remember it… and if it was your fault too, I want you to fix that, and not do it again. I want you to learn and not depend on outside stimuli to get you through life.

I don’t want you to grow up normal. To feel that a standardized test is a true measure of your worth and that grades are what define you. I want you to spend time helping other people, growing and learning in your own time. To know that a helping hand to one in need is sometimes worth far more than a test score.

I don’t want you to grow up normal. To never leave the…

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Wordless Wednesday :)

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It’s Wednesday and time for a laugh!
So here’s hoping you enjoy this truly funny clip by Andy Andrews
as shared on the awesome Women of Faith Facebook page;
at the end I’m sure you’ll agree you didn’t know
there were so many versions of “Amazing Grace“!

 

 

 


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Motherhood with Benefits

Photo by Gale E

My son is 18 years old. Now, instead of having to look after him 24/7 it seems as though I spend a fair deal of time reminding him I even exist. When he was born, I decided to totally dedicate 16 years to teaching him as many life lessons as possible. That was the small window I saw us having together before he left my influence. It was definitely a challenge but worth it!

There were lots of things I had to put on hold: parties, going to the gym, studying, working too late.  I’ve shared about being a parent here and here and here and the sacrificial list seemed endless but through it all one thing was clear: I learnt that women cannot truly ‘have it all’. Something has to give.

Life is all about trade-offs … and being in denial does not help. My advice to a younger me would be to make a decision on what I want and what I am willing to sacrifice to get what I want, bearing in mind that total commitment to a career (whether as an employee or entrepreneur) or a family means one or the other may suffer (for lack of a better way of describing it).

Maybe that’s not clear enough but thanks to www.begintobelieve for clarifying in this post My Journey from Motherhood to Other Important Stuff! which included part of a recent interview by Oprah Winfrey featuring Shonda Rhimes. I am a great admirer of Shonda, she is such a brilliant and talented writer! And I guess what’s most exciting is that she is a black woman with children making her dreams happen on her terms.

My final take away: may all women continue to rock on and be awesome – especially those with children and demanding but dreamed-of careers! Thanks for visiting 🙂

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This little circle right here

 

Photo by Gale E

Photo by Gale E

 

“It will be consumers who will decide those solutions are good ones or not, … I can guarantee you that Bluetooth will end up having its most important uses being uses that nobody can guess at today.”
(Paul Saffo)
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The photo above shows an unexpected yet much appreciated gift of friendship received during my recent trip to Trinidad and although I am not much of a techie I totally love, love, love my new mini BlueTooth speaker to the max!

In days gone by it seriously pained me to ask my 18 year old son to help me connect my laptop to his wireless speakers. Wasn’t my need obvious? Because how was a girl to get her groove on when working out? It was a simple request … or so I thought.  However the look of utter disbelief on his face which translated into: “You can’t seriously want me to help you do something as simple/juvenile/no-brainer as that??!!!” usually resulted in me walking away before the thought (his and then mine) translated into actual words.

Today I learnt that a tiny but very powerful circle can transform any room into a worship sanctuary, disco or meditation space all at the mere touch of a button or finger swipe on my Blu mobile phone – and to think I was able to set up everything up all on my own aka go me!

At the end of the day, I am still not much of a techie but can definitely confirm for sure: some technology is simply amazingly awesome 🙂

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Photo by Gale E

Photo by Gale E