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It is what it is; when your child tells you he is gay

“Do I want to be a hero to my son? No. I would like to be a very real human being. That’s hard enough.”
~ Robert Downey, Jr.

 

This is simply a mother’s perspectiove on Father’s Day. I have one son. No other children. I worry about him sometimes only because like most other parents I want the absolute best for him. My life experiences offered lots of lessons but when I try to share them he usually likes to learn his own lessons in his own way. That can be tough for a parent; to let go and let be.

Yet I have to admit I grew up in a totally different time. Today, things that are considered normal or acceptable would have been frowned upon 50 years ago when we were a more conservative society. Homosexuality for example was kept a secret for as long as possible to avoid the judgmental stares, comments and victimization. If you were a brave man you came out; if you were a woman you kept your secret even longer to avoid the fingers pointing at ‘that lesbian girl’.

In a world of same sex marriages and public displays of affection, these questions came up during a recent discussion with some friends: what would you do if your child told you they were gay?  Would you be supportive? Would you put them out on the street if they still lived with you? Would you be accepting of their partner? Would you need an extra supply of blood pressure meds?

I honestly didn’t have an answer but one of the most profound comments that night was this one: “Well you know what? It is what it is.”

As we get ready to salute all dads on Father’s Day in a few days, I salute this parent’s response to the news that both of his sons were gay, even while asking you: what would you do if this happened to you?

And then, the dad was able to share his feelings about his sons.
I appreciated the mature way he supported them.

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Looking at You (aka Reflecting)

REFLECTING

I look at you
sometimes more than
once in a single day
eyes fully open
not wanting to miss
one single moment,
straining to really see
how much of me
is growing
with you, in you;
not wanting you to be me
(not at all!)
but acknowledging all
that I could ever wish for
is already there … within you …
my most amazing work of art.

© Gale Weithers, 2017

“A work of art is a world in itself reflecting senses and emotions of the artist’s world.”
~ Hans Hofmann

“Only mothers can think of the future – because they give birth to it in their children.”
~ Maxim Gorky

 

 

 


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The Truth About Parenting – And Why It’s Important To Lead By Example

children on tour

Photo by Gale E

“If we never have headaches through rebuking our children, we shall have plenty of heartaches when they grow up.”
– Charles Spurgeon

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Parenting is challenging. Yet it can be so very rewarding!

It is human to wonder if our children really hear us when we speak to them, if they are taking in the life lessons rather than choosing to go their own rebellious ways and if they will honestly leave us in a senior citizen’s home when we become old and frail and unable to look after ourselves. We sigh when they are stubborn and cry when they cry; we laugh at their jokes and hug them back when they know we know they are being cheeky. Would I exchange being a parent for anything in the world? Definitely not!

But here is an excellent article entitled: “4 Reasons More Is Caught Than Taught” which illustrates some of what parenting truly covers. Take a read and then share your comments, especially if you are a parent.

Excerpt: 
CAN’T HEAR YOU
If your words don’t match your actions, then your children can’t hear what you’re saying because your actions are drowning out your words. I know, I’ve done it, but this should give us pause to reflect on what we do can be more important than what we say, as experience has proven that more is caught than is taught. They might not do what you say but do what you do, so our examples are of supreme importance.
MONKEY SEE, MONKEY DO
The old expression, “monkey see, monkey do” is perfectly appropriate for parents, foster parents, and grandparents. That expression means that they will repeat what you do and not what you say.   Read more

SOME MORE PARENTING TRUTHS 🙂

“To be a good father and mother requires that the parents defer many of their own needs and desires in favor of the needs of their children. As a consequence of this sacrifice, conscientious parents develop a nobility of character and learn to put into practice the selfless truths taught by the Savior Himself.” ~ James E. Faust

“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” ~ Frederick Douglass

“Never lend your car to anyone to whom you have given birth.” ~ Erma Bombeck

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