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It is what it is; when your child tells you he is gay

“Do I want to be a hero to my son? No. I would like to be a very real human being. That’s hard enough.”
~ Robert Downey, Jr.

 

This is simply a mother’s perspectiove on Father’s Day. I have one son. No other children. I worry about him sometimes only because like most other parents I want the absolute best for him. My life experiences offered lots of lessons but when I try to share them he usually likes to learn his own lessons in his own way. That can be tough for a parent; to let go and let be.

Yet I have to admit I grew up in a totally different time. Today, things that are considered normal or acceptable would have been frowned upon 50 years ago when we were a more conservative society. Homosexuality for example was kept a secret for as long as possible to avoid the judgmental stares, comments and victimization. If you were a brave man you came out; if you were a woman you kept your secret even longer to avoid the fingers pointing at ‘that lesbian girl’.

In a world of same sex marriages and public displays of affection, these questions came up during a recent discussion with some friends: what would you do if your child told you they were gay?  Would you be supportive? Would you put them out on the street if they still lived with you? Would you be accepting of their partner? Would you need an extra supply of blood pressure meds?

I honestly didn’t have an answer but one of the most profound comments that night was this one: “Well you know what? It is what it is.”

As we get ready to salute all dads on Father’s Day in a few days, I salute this parent’s response to the news that both of his sons were gay, even while asking you: what would you do if this happened to you?

And then, the dad was able to share his feelings about his sons.
I appreciated the mature way he supported them.


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And you thought you had one up on this Granny … definitely not!

You get a news feed from www.bbcnews.com on your instagram account with the following headline:

Hairdryer gran Jean Brooks is ‘national hero’ say fans

You wonder how many hairstyles Jean could be doing every day to make her a national hero. Sounds as though she must be something special so you click on the link to see this introduction:

“A hairdryer-wielding grandmother who became an internet sensation says schoolchildren in her area now consider her a “national hero. Jean Brooks uses the hairdryer as a pretend speed gun outside her home in Hucknall, Nottinghamshire.”

Of course you want to read more! I also wanted to see how well this worked because it was just so far fetched.  The report went on to say this:

“A video of her has been viewed more than 33 million times on the BBC Radio Nottingham Facebook page.  Since her new-found fame, she said she is asked for selfies and fans visit her home.”

Click on the link above to see the hilarious video but guess what? Success was achieved.  It was a serious situation that called for desperate measures and I could totally relate to this as something possibly affecting many of us in other parts of the world.  Here on my little rock for sure, we have stunt bike riders performing wheelies in the middle of thick bumper-to-bumper traffic and in neighborhoods every single day but especially on weekends aka super dangerous but the riders just do not care.

Jean’s streets are much safer for residents now, including young vulnerable children; she is a great granny and an excellent role model. She did what she had to do to restore order, stability and safety from out of the chaos because as they say, ‘necessity is the mother of invention’ and this invention was most definitely necessary.

But what’s your take? Would you have gone to these lengths? And on a scale of 1 – 10 what’s your rating for ingenuity? Let’s start a conversation; share your thoughts in the comments box 🙂


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Happy National Donut Day :)

It really was a great doughnut from the very first bite!

“Each year on the first Friday in June, people participate in National Doughnut or Donut Day.  This day celebrates the doughnut and honors the Salvation Army Lassies, the women that served doughnuts to soldiers during WWI.

In 1917, the original “Salvation Army Doughnut” was first served by the ladies of the Salvation Army.  It was during WWI that the Salvation Army Lassies went to the front lines of Europe.  Home cooked foods, provided by these brave volunteers, were a morale boost to the troops.” Read more

The most interesting thing about this evanescent moment in time was that the little doughnut took me all of five minutes to eat and even though it 100% filled my tummy so I was no longer hungry, it also 100% obliterated all of the hard work I had put into staying on track with my diet. Yikes!

Should I be happy or sad? I couldn’t decide but tell me: how would you feel? And what are you eating today? Did you know about National Donut Day?

Share your story and let’s start a conversation 🙂


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Know your friends!

#girlfriends #friends #Barbados friends

“While he was still speaking, Judas, one of the Twelve, arrived. With him was a large crowd armed with swords and clubs, sent from the chief priests and the elders of the people. Now the betrayer had arranged a signal with them: “The one I kiss is the man; arrest him.” Going at once to Jesus, Judas said, “Greetings, Rabbi!” and kissed him.
Jesus replied, “Do what you came for, friend.”
Then the men stepped forward, seized Jesus and arrested him.”
Matthew 26:47-50 (NIV)

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What or who is a friend? A friend is someone you trust, someone you kiss and hug. This person can hold your love and in most cases carry a secret or two for you. He or she can be a work-mate, a fellow believer in your church or a mentor. A friend can even be family.

So imagine. Being betrayed. By a friend. With a kiss. After this person has warmly greeted and hugged you close.

The thing is that most of us do not have to imagine. I am sure you have experienced a “Judas Kiss” type of betrayal first hand and can think back to a time when you were deeply hurt and terribly disappointed by a so-called friend. Yet I believe these feelings are magnified even more when the betrayal falls even closer. Judas wasn’t simply a friend of Jesus. As one of the disciples he would have been the next best thing to family. They would have intimately shared good times, bad times and in between times. They would have prayed together, worshipped together and rejoiced after the incredible miracles. I always ask myself: “What was Judas thinking?” But that’s not a fair question, because if not Judas then who? Someone had to betray Jesus so He would eventually be crucified for our sins … not so?

While listening to this gospel one Sunday at Mass another series of questions jumped out at me:

  • Even now, all these years later, don’t we ourselves continue to betray Jesus ever so often?
  • How many times have we judged others, been impatient, hard and un-compassionate, while being unwilling to give or support?
  • How often have we slept in late rather than go out to church?
  • Do we usually not fail to turn the other cheek, preferring instead to lash out in defense of perceived injustices against our sound character and good reputation?

Hmmmmmm …. hard questions indeed and just a little something to think more about. As for me, there is much work still to be done on this human being right here. In closing out this post then, my prayer is that God will continue to pour His blessings over us His children, that He may inspire us to always trust in Him – in spite of friends who betray us – day by day by day.

Thanks for visiting and here’s to friends and friendship!

“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”
Jeremiah 17:7-8 (NIV)

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