How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves.
How handsome you are, my beloved! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant.
Song of Songs 1:15-16 (NIV)
True or False
I remember seeing the post below on Facebook:
“WOMEN, if you come across a man who is hot, smart, humble, educated, financially secure, passionate, and patient, and who is great @ fixing things around the house, who is not materialistic, loves you like you are the only girl in the world and watches you while you put on your make up, who listens to your every word…Rest assured that the WEED you have just smoked is of a SUPERIOR QUALITY”.
So where IS this Prince Charming (or Cinderella)?
I chuckled as the ending was rather unexpected … or was it? What are our expectations of our partners? Are they realistic or more of a fairy tale vision? Don’t we females hope for a handsome Prince Charming to rescue us from a fiery dragon (aka life and its stressors) so that we can ride off happily into the sunset and live happily ever after? Maybe if you are a male you are waiting to go to that ‘ball’ (aka dance or party) where you will find the glass slipper of your own beautiful Cinderella. That would be great because not only would your bride be drop-dead gorgeous, she would also be able to cook and clean just as she did when she slaved away while living with her step sisters.
I admit I longed for a handsome prince who would throw me up on his horse and take us off into the sunset to live happily ever after, but I also conceded that no matter how good my prince was, I would probably still exert considerable effort trying to mould him into my concept of what a fearless dragon slaying hero should like … and of course failing miserably.
So come now, let’s release those Unrealistic Expectations …
If you are still in the process of managing your list of resolutions for this year like I am, maybe you should also consider including something that relates to releasing unrealistic expectations; not only of your partner but also of your job, your co-workers, your boss, your extended family, your friends, your church, your pastor. Why? Because no matter how much we try, we are all imperfect human beings who will never be able to make another human being perfect in this very imperfect world. And isn’t it true we most times know what we have to do but it’s the actual “doing” that becomes a challenge? We know we should be nicer, more considerate, more supportive, more understanding, more lenient, more loving, more sympathetic – the list is endless – but in the overwhelming busyness of living we exhibit behaviour that is exactly opposite.
… and move forward!
Going forward I plan to do a lot more releasing, not only of unrealistic expectations of others but also of those I place on myself. The only person I can truly expect to hold accountable for my life, my decisions and the results of those decisions is me and me alone; there is no-one else. Acknowledging that “if it’s to be it’s up to me” is hopefully the first step to confirming the reality of my existence, while reigning in my expectations of others comes in at a close second.
So how do we find our perfect Prince Charming (who may still be off somewhere relaxing in fairy land with Cinderella)? We don’t but it doesn’t matter because I anticipate my life is going to be amazingly awesome and bursting with opportunities waiting to be discovered! I am sure it’s going to be just as awesome for you too 🙂