I keep saying that parenting is hard BUT life with a teenager can be one of the most stressful times in a parent’s life. Teens are moody, confrontational, opinionated, insular … the list can be never ending. They test our limits and ignore our boundaries, chaffing at the bit for more responsibility but discounting the accountability that accompanies it.
When dealing with your teenager, what works for your friends may not work for you. This is because all teenagers are definitely not created equal. As a result, some days your trials end in error and you wonder if there will ever be any light at the end of your very long tunnel.
Hopefully however, this useful article from www.webmd.com can help. Entitled “5 Mistakes Parents Make With Teens and Tweens” and written by Joanne Barker it explains in detail the 5 errors (noted below) specifically made by parents of teenagers.
- Expecting the Worst
- Reading Too Many Parenting Books
- Sweating the Small Stuff
- Ignoring the Big Stuff
- Too Much, or Too Little, Discipline
My personal take away after reading the article in its entirety? Joanne’s comments: “No doubt about it: Your teen, or tween, will test your limits, and your patience. But they’re still your child. And, though they won’t admit it, they still need you! The key is knowing what efforts are worth it, and which ones backfire.”
As you parent your teen/tween I wish you the same luck I wish for myself, and as I pray for God to give me the strength and wisdom to do a good job, so will I be praying for you.