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A Barbadian sharing my life, my words and my hope of finding God's peace … one day at a time.

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R.I.P, Mom


People refer to cancer as the ‘silent killer’ but for me, Alzheimer’s and Dementia are even more more silent if not deadlier. That’s because there are signs especially in the beginning which can be easily missed and by the time you realise what’s going on you are already well on the way to walking the road of no return.
This post may be a year old, but in actuality it is timeless for all of us who have either lost or are currently caring for loved ones suffering from these incurable diseases. Thanks Prem Panicker for sharing your journey with us.

Originally posted on Smoke Signals:

One day, I had a call from mom.

It was one of those routine calls she used to make to my wife and I, more as a means of reaching out than because she had some news of import to convey – the telephone line as umbilical cord.

So she would call and ramble on about my eating habits and smoking and how the neighbor was remodeling his home and the dust was settling in thick layers all over our home as a result and about the other neighbor whose daughter, based in the US, was pregnant, and…

I listened patiently to those stream-of-consciousness chronicles of the mundane ticks of her time because I knew she was, in her own way, trying to make up for lost time. Through a torrent of words, she was trying to make up for the grim silences of the past.

So that day, she…

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It is not easy to forgive …

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Has someone hurt you over and over again? Even when you were at pains to explain how their actions affected you, did they continue with the same old painful behaviour?  But then what? How do you truly forgive someone who has repeatedly hurt you? And why should you? Continue reading

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Every single one of us has a story

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. 

Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)



It’s true: everyone has a story. But why is it important for those with stories to share while those with ears listen? Because your story could just as easily be my story. Continue reading

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Once upon a time, they lived happily ever after … maybe

May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer– may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. 

Proverbs 5:18-19 (NIV)

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I’ve found that men usually hesitate to talk, willingly or otherwise, preferring to steer away from intense communication.  It was the case in most of my relationships and it was definitely the case in my marriage.  Things would lie dormant, then fester and fester, like mold silently but consistently growing on old cheese.  When we finally discussed the issue, it would have grown from a dust ball into a mountain that could not be climbed far less surmounted. And then over time, it became too late; too late to recover from the everything that had led to nothing.

As they say, looking back is 20/20 vision and I believe we both could have behaved differently … but we didn’t.  So I look to the future now, and my gaze embraces our 16 year old son, who must be taught the lessons I learnt – the hard way.  That’s why I’ll be sharing this message below written by Gerald Rogers, a man divorced after 16 years of marriage.  I have to let Nathan know that as Gerald says:

“In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.”
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