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A Barbadian writing words on life and looking towards God's perfect peace … one day at a time.

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It’s Time for a Time out – from toxic people!

“Don’t let toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and get them out of there.”

Marc Chernoff


Life is short. You do the best you can and then you die; in fact, we all die.  And unfortunately, not once can we go back because there’s absolutely no rewinding of the clock; it’s over when it’s over.

If you’re like me, there comes a time therefore when you pause and finally admit you’ve had enough of toxic people polluting your life. You know the ones.  Those are the individuals who love to gossip with and about you, promote negativity rather than positivity and always see their glass (and yours) as being permanently half empty. There is never any light at the end of the tunnel and if they do see a light, they make sure it’s snuffed out before it can show you the way out of the tunnel.

But if this is indeed you, maybe you are not sure as to how you really should go about detoxing your life.  I know I wasn’t, but that changed when I came across these 7 Smart Ways to Deal with Toxic People (which I plan to implement immediately!):

  1. Move on without them
  2. Stop pretending their toxic behaviour is ok
  3. Speak up!
  4. Put your foot down
  5. Don’t take their toxic behaviour personally
  6. Practice practical compassion
  7. Take time for yourself

Here is an interesting excerpt:

“If you know someone who insists on destructively dictating the emotional atmosphere, then be clear: they are toxic. If you are suffering because of their attitude, and your compassion, patience, advice, and general attentiveness doesn’t seem to help them, and they don’t seem to care one bit, then ask yourself, “Do I need this person in my life?”

When you delete toxic people from your environment it becomes a lot easier to breathe. If the circumstances warrant it, leave these people behind and move on when you must. Seriously, be strong and know when enough is enough! Letting go of toxic people doesn’t mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it simply means you care about your own well-being.”

Seems obvious right? But there are lots more details available so read the entire article here and if you still think it can’t be done, why not check out an earlier post I shared on How Hard is Hard? – because life is definitely not as hard as it could be!

So come, let’s go out and resolve to live toxic free lives as much as possible; it can be done.

NB: Info shared here today is compliments of this super cool site :-)


I am definitely mom to a teenager – ask Charles Stanley – but I love him a whole lot!

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Mom and super tall son

Mom and super tall son

“Motherhood is a great honor and privilege, yet it is also synonymous with servanthood. Every day women are called upon to selflessly meet the needs of their families. Whether they are awake at night nursing a baby, spending their time and money on less-than-grateful teenagers, or preparing meals, moms continuously put others before themselves.”

Charles Stanley

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Ten Essential Back to School Supplies That Money Can’t Buy


I so wish someone had thought to have this kind of conversation with me when Nathan started his school life. Admittedly, some parents spend so much time stressing over their ability (or lack thereof) to provide physical-back-to school items that we forget to focus on the more important ‘touchy feely let-me-help-you-become-a-better-person’ stuff. But for those of us with children, it’s not too late to take note.of this very sound advice because the youth of today will become the adults of the tomorrow. I know you’ll agree :-)

Originally posted on BulgingButtons:

What supplies does my child need for school? I heard this question over and over the other evening during Meet the Teacher night at my school. It’s a legitimate question. School is starting next week, and needless to say, parents want their kids to be prepared. They are ready to head off to the mega-discount store or the office supply store or the drug store to do some serious damage.

They are bracing themselves for the cost of all those new notebooks and colored pencils and glue sticks and dry erase markers. They know what’s coming and they want to get it over with. I hear them. I’m a parent too.

That’s why I don’t have a long list to hand them. That’s why I don’t require size “x” notebooks and brand “y” crayons. In fact I don’t require those items at all. For most of my career I taught…

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